You made the call fast.
Not because it was the right call. Because deciding had become worse than whatever you were deciding about. The question had been open for days, weeks, and somewhere in there the not-knowing started to cost more than a wrong answer would, so you closed it. Picked one. Moved.
And you felt relieved.
Notice that word. Not happy. Relieved. The way a phone feels when it finally stops ringing, even when it was a call you wanted.
That relief told you it was the right decision. It told you nothing of the kind. Relief is what you feel when the open question closes, regardless of whether it closed well. You can feel exactly that same relief slamming a door on the best thing that ever almost happened to you.
You did not choose the thing. You chose the end of choosing.
one thing: think of a decision you made fast this year. Ask whether you chose the option, or just chose to stop deciding. Notice they are not the same.
Josh